You should see her glow when I tell her how special she is; how capable and funny and smart and nice. You should see it! Of course there are rough times in our home. Times when she needs redirection, a stern word, even a strong arm. A lot of them. Enough to crush anyone’s spirit if I weren’t filling her head with how loved she is at every opportunity. Here are some of her favorites (and I know this because she repeats them often!):
You’re the best girl eeeever!
I’m so glad you’re my daughter! ♥ Thank you for being my daughter.
You are soooo smart!
Kirsten, you’re so cool ♥ You’re a cool kid.
Kirsten, you are so brave.
You work so hard. Your teacher tells me what a hard worker you are. I’m so proud of you!
(After arriving from school) I’m so glad you’re home. I missed you!
(Before spring break) Next week I get you all to myself. I don’t have to share you with school!
And Kirsten’s personal favorite:
Do you know what was the best day eeever? (Insert birth date here). That’s when YOU came out of my tummy and I said, “YES, Kirsten’s here! Yes! I’m soooo happy!!!”
…often followed up with:
I didn’t know who was in there but I was hoping it would be you!
What makes your child feel special? A wink, secret handshake, meaningful gift, shared outing?